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What are healthy relationship traits
Everyone deserves to have healthy relationships (romantic and other!) that allow both partners to feel safe and supported, yet still independent. Movies, music, and social media may not always be the greatest examples of what a healthy relationship looks like and why it's worth striving for. That's why we have to make sure we talk about it. Here are four healthy traits we like to focus on, but obviously, there's so many more! Let us know what you want in a healthy relationship down below.
treat others as they want to be treated
be your own person
You've probably heard of the "Golden Rule", that you should treat others as you want to be treated. We like to challenge that rule and instead say that you should treat others as they want to be treated. That means maybe you would love to hold hands and be cuddly or whateva, but if your dating partner isn't cool with that, it's about being respectful of what they are comfortable with and vice versa. In a respectful relationship, partners should:
- Listen to what your partner has to say
- Ask for their opinion or what they want to do, and then make sure they feel safe enough to be honest
- Respect their boundaries and their right to say "no"
- Value their opinions, beliefs, and culture, even if it differs from your own
- Acknowledge their wants and needs
- Respecting their chosen pronouns and comfort level disclosing your relationship to others
No matter how long you have been with your partner, space and boundaries are major. Both you and your partner should be able to be your own people outside of your dating relationship. You should both be able to have personal space and boundaries in all areas. In a healthy relationship, partners should:
- Spend time with friends and family, away from your partner
- Trusting each other, not making your partner “check in”
- Not constantly checking your partner's social media to see if they really are where they said they would be
- Not pressuring the other into do things that they don’t want to do
- Not constantly accuse the other of cheating or being unfaithful
- Respecting each others privacy
- Asking your partner what they're okay with and giving them the space to be honest
equal decision making
relationships should take work, but shouldn't be a chore
Healthy relationships mean equal/shared decision making. Equality can mean different things to different people so it's important to communicate about the balance in your relationship.
Some examples of equality are:
- Doing things for each other
- Splitting or alternating the cost of dates
- Going places/participating in activities you both enjoy
- Giving as much as you receive
- Offering support & building each other up, not putting each other down
- Treating one another as equals
- Allowing them to be honest and heard in disagreements
Your relationships should be a fun thing. You should be able to work on making yourself a better partner or friend, but you should also be able to have fun with the people you care most about.
Here are some fun things you may want to do with your partner!
- Go on a hike or enjoy nature another way
- Watch a movie together, either at home or in the theatre
- Have a picnic at the beach
- Play video games together
- Go on a double date with some friends