when something seems off

Supporting friends is a huge responsibility. If you notice warning signs that a friend is being abused or in an unhealthy relationship, it’s important to speak up and let them know they don't deserve to be hurt. If we do nothing, the abuse may escalate.


Some warning signs of abuse

  • Lower self-esteem / depressed

  • Drastic change in appearance or behavior

  • Stops hanging out with friends or family

  • Blames self for the abuse

  • Change in social media presence

  • Attached to phone when not around partner; afraid to miss a call / text

  • Paranoid

  • Sensitive to touch

  • Heavy makeup / long clothing (to cover up or disguise abuse)

  • Makes excuses for dating partner

  • Slacking in responsibility (at school, job, etc.)

  • Cut off from certain people because of dating partner




Isolation is one of the biggest warning signs of abuse. It can include controlling what clubs or activities a dating partner joins, being forced to check-in constantly, or being made to feel guilty for spending time with friends or family. If you suspect a friend has become isolated, show them that you still care!


Lower Self Esteem

Lower self-esteem

If you notice a drastic change in your friend’s appearance, personality, mood, or behavior, check-in with them! They may be experiencing verbal or emotional abuse, which can lower self-esteem or cause a person to blame themselves for the abuse.