abuse isn't just physical.

Usually when people think of abuse, they think of physical. The truth is, all forms of abuse can cause lasting effects. Anything done with the motive of trying to control one dating partner or have power over them, make them fearful, or intimidate them can be abusive. Here are some of the main types of abuse.

+ Verbal/Emotional

Using words, tone of voice, and/or body to intimidate, criticize, humiliate, and/or abuse partner.

This may look like:

  • Calling you names or putting you down
  • Yelling and screaming at you
  • Intentionally embarrassing you in public or with friends
  • Putting you down for what you wear or look like
  • Critiquing your physical appearance, body, clothing, etc.
  • Starting rumors about you
  • Blaming you for their abusive behavior
  • Making you feel guilty, insecure, shameful, or immature if you don't consent to sexual activity

Is emotional abuse really that serious?

Just because a relationship hasn't been physically violent, that doesn't mean it's not abusive. The potential for emotional abuse leaving lasting damage is very real. Sometimes it gets to the point where you begin to beleve that what your partner is saying is true. You become convinced that you are worthless, or stupid, or whatever else. Constantly being put down or embarrassed lowers your self esteem, and it begins to affect the way you view yourself. You may even begin blaming yourself for your partner's abuse.

Never forget, emotional abuse is never your fault, your dating partner is just attempting to maintain power and control so you will stay in the relationship.

If you think you're experiencing verbal or emotional abuse, reach out to someone you trust and think about making a safety plan. Don't forget, you can always reach out to us on instagram, or talk to an advocate.

+ Mental

Abuse that messes with your mind through methods like isolating you from friends/family, mind games, or manipulation.

This may look like:

  • Isolating you from friends, family, or activities
  • Controlling what you do, who you see, or who you talk to
  • Limiting your outside activities
  • Threats:
    • Murder/suicide (ex: "if you leave me I'll kill you or myself")
    • Harming others
    • To expose or "out" you
    • Reveal immigration status
  • Mind games/manipulation
  • Denying, minimizing or blaming you for abuse

+ Cyber/Digital

Anything that uses technology to abuse

This may look like:

  • Constantly checking up on you over text, Facetime, calls
  • Making you share your location and then stalking you
  • Controlling who you follow or are friends with on social media
  • Controlling who you text, call, or have saved in your phone
  • Posting photos or information of you online without your consent
  • Forcing you to send or recieve nudes or other explicit material
  • Forcing or manipulating you into sharing passwords

+ Sexual

Anything done to your body sexually that you didn't want done.

  • Rape
  • Being forced to show affection (i.e. holding hands in public)
  • Having your nudes posted or shared without your consent
  • Sexual harrassment
  • Groping
  • Touching your body without your consent

+ Physical

Anything done to your body physically, that you did not want done. It can also include possessions.

  • Punching Scratching, punching, biting, strangling or kicking.
  • Throwing something at you such as a phone or book.
  • Pulling your hair.
  • Pushing or pulling you.
  • Destroying clothing
  • Using a gun, knife, or other weapon.
  • Forcing you to have sex or perform a sexual act.
  • Grabbing your face and making you look at them.
  • Not letting you leave somewhere or forcing you to go somewhere