What are healthy relationship traits?
Everyone deserves to have healthy relationships that allow both partners to feel safe and supported, yet still independent. Healthy relationships are good for your health! If you have supportive, loving relationships, you are more likely to feel satisfied with your life.
So, what do healthy relationships look like?
Space & Boundaries
No matter how long you have been with your partner, space and boundaries are major. Both you and your partner should be able to be your own people outside of your dating relationship. You should both be able to have personal space and boundaries in all areas. In a healthy relationship, partners should:
- Spend time with friends and family, away from your partner
- Trusting each other, not making your partner “check in”
- Not constantly checking your partner's social media to see if they really are where they said they would be
- Not pressuring the other into do things that they don’t want to do
- Not constantly accuse the other of cheating or being unfaithful
- Respecting each others privacy
- Asking your partner what they're okay with and giving them the space to be honest
Check out our page on communicating with your partner for some conversation starters
People often quote the "Golden Rule", treat others as you want to be treated, but we think it should be treat others as they want to be treated. That means maybe you would really love to hold hands or be cuddly, but if your dating partner isn't cool with that, it's about respecting that, and vice versa.
- Listening to what your partner has to say
- Asking what they want to do
- Respecting their boundaries and their right to say “no”
- Valuing their opinions, beliefs, and culture, even if it differs from your own
- Respecting each others wants and needs
- Respecting their chosen pronouns and comfort level disclosing relationship to others
Healthy relationships mean equal/shared decision making. Equality can mean different things to different people so it's important to communicate about the balance in your relationship.
Some examples of equality are:
- Doing things for each other
- Splitting or alternating the cost of dates
- Going places/participating in activities you both enjoy
- Giving as much as you receive
- Offering support & building each other up, not putting each other down
- Treating one another as equals
- Allowing them to be honest and heard in disagreements
There are many other traits that help create healthy relationships, including trust, communication, honesty, love, acceptance, fun, etc.